Sunday, May 20, 2018


It's really easy to get distracted.  I believe in keeping it simple.  Focus.  Don't worry about things far off.  Concentrate on the next 24 hours and live in the present moment.  Do this and everything else will take care of itself.  Eat right.  Exercise right.  Sleep right.  Spend time with your loved ones.  Repeat tomorrow.  Have a great day.

Saturday, May 19, 2018

Nonverbal Communication Pointers

What you say doesn't matter as much as how you say it; you're talking without words.  It's all in your body language.  If people aren't listening, try tuning in to your nonverbal communication mannerisms and examine what's turning people off.  Slumped shoulders, crossed arms and stares into space tell others you really don't want to be there.  These are easy fixes.

Invite people into the conversation with good posture and the "lean in" move.  Leaning in tells others you want to hear them and they are important.  What you choose to wear always signals the level of importance you place on the people around you.  Never underestimate the value of your smile.  Your frown may falsely signal that you don't like the people you are with.  Or, maybe you honestly don't like them.  The quickest way to shut them down is to give them a frown or a blank stare.  Give a little.  Brighten up the space around you.  This will give meaning to your words.  Have a great day.

Friday, May 18, 2018

Compliment Check

How often do you pay compliments to others?  If your self rating ranks down there with the Grinch who stole Christmas, today's story is for you.  Maybe you grew up in a household where compliments were reserved for CEO's – Christmas and Easter only.  Perhaps your boss doesn't want you to get a big head if he or she shares just how proficient you are.  It's difficult to compliment others when you rarely receive them yourself.  You're missing out on better relationships.  A good pat on the back goes a long way, especially if you're a parent or are in a leadership role.

Compliments make the world go around.  They encourage others to keep going in tough conditions.  You may be thinking, hey, these people around me don't deserve any compliments.  They're lazy, they make mistakes and I can't think of one think good to say about them.

You need to find one good thing.  Start small.  Be genuine.  If you really see others this way, you may be responsible for their lack of motivation.  Give them one compliment and watch their behavior change right before your eyes.  You can be the change the world needs.  Compliments are contagious.  Go ahead.  Make someone's day today.  Be lavish in your praise.  Have a great day.

Thursday, May 17, 2018

What's on Your Calendar?

Your calendar is more than dates and times.  It's one of the most powerful influences in your life if you use it wisely.  Leave it blank and your life will drift away like a sailboat without a sail.  Beware of overfilling or you may burn out.  I believe experimenting will help you find an optimum schedule that helps you reach the life you're dreaming about today.  I find one day of rest once a week helps me to be my best and feel my best.  Think of your calendar as a sheet of music and find harmony in all the chords.  Practice until you get the beat just right and remember you are in charge of your own music.  Be creative and customize your calendar to help you get the tune right.  Have a great day.

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Gratitude Unlocks Door to Happiness

I'm offering you one of my favorite keys today.  Without this key, you may find happiness to be elusive.  I know many people who could use this key but choose not to.  Maybe they would rather wallow in their misery.  Too bad.  This key is the only thing I need to enter my happiness zone.  No matter what's going on in my life, I can always find one thing to be thankful for.  Please do me a favor and share your key with others.  Unlock the door for them.  Invite them in.  Happiness is best served when you're serving others.  Thank you for visiting today.  I'm thankful you're in my life.  Have a great day.

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

It Begins with a Decision

Ever wonder how others get things done?  They breeze through their to do lists effortlessly while you struggle to find a starting point.  I've been there.  Stuck in the mud.  Weighed down by heavy workloads.  One step forward, then two backward.  I know what's missing.  It's the decision to pursue your purpose.  Decide you will discover the meaning of your life and that's when everything falls into place.  Heaven and earth will work with you to accomplish all the Creator has planned for you.  Everything else is meaningless clutter.

Perhaps you're thinking, how do I find my purpose?  I have a great idea – ask your Creator to reveal it to you.  Yep.  It's that simple.  God wants you to be aware of the master plan for your life.  It's not only the plan but the timing.  Everything you need to be successful is in place – the people, the challenges and the assignments.  Your obstacles are also part of the plan.  That's where the timing comes into play.  Arrive too soon and you won't meet the people you need to meet.  Take everything in stride.  Be patient.  Trust your instincts.  Once you decide you will discover your purpose your journey becomes meaningful and you will get things done.  Have a great day.

Monday, May 14, 2018

Got Joy?

The trauma team doctors were caught off-guard when I asked, "when can I play tennis again?"

Maybe my timing wasn't appropriate given my circumstances at the moment I was admitted to the hospital but I really wanted to know.  The first answer the doctor blurted out was, "six weeks – minimum."  His emphasis was on minimum.  His answer was my starting point in my recovery.  I couldn't play tennis with seven broken ribs but I could visualize it in my mind.  There's no pain when you're eyes are closed and you're in your happy place doing what you love.

What's holding you back from joy in your life?  Are you missing out on what brings you joy?  Why?  These questions are important to ask yourself because joy is an important ingredient in life and if it's not there, life will be dull and uninspiring.

The other day I received a random compliment while I was typing and I remembered how pathetic my typing skills were in my college days.   My mother saved me from doom when my hunt and peck typing method wasn't cutting it on important term papers.   Besides tennis, my real joy comes from writing.  The more I type on my laptop, the easier the key strokes become.  Is the joy increasing?  Yes.  I'm doing what I love.  I'm always looking for a better way to improve my serve or put a sentence together.  That's my recommendation for you – discover what you love and make the time to do it.  Have a great day.