Tuesday, May 21, 2019
Change isn't easy. Our belief systems are what make us who we are. They also prevent us from becoming the best version of ourselves. Here are the top ten questions I've been asked this year. See if any of these resonate with you...
1. Question (from a stranger sitting next to me on a plane): "What's wrong with drinking milk?"
Answer: "A calf gains 400 pounds in its first year from drinking its mother's milk. Then, it weans itself and switches to grass. We are the only mammals in the world who drink milk designed for other mammals and we never wean ourselves. Do you see now why we have an obesity problem? (I'll elaborate on this in my next book)."
2. Question: "Why don't I have enough time to get things done?"
Answer: "You have exactly enough time to do whatever is important to you. In fact, what you're doing right now is your most important priority. For most, watching television for four or more hours a day is a daily habit. So is spending another hour or more on Facebook. For me, writing books, coaching others to maximize their lives, and taking multiple vacations each year are my priorities and I'm willing to sacrifice TV to create all the time I need to make these goals possible."
3. Question: "How do I overcome fear?"
Answer: "By doing the things you fear until fear is no longer the obstacle preventing you from living your dreams."
4. Question: "How do I get more money?"
Answer: "More money isn't what you need. You need to learn how to live in abundance. Your credit card companies and your mortgage broker already figured this out. Their abundance comes from your monthly payments. Turn this around. Pay all your debts as soon as possible, one at a time until you're debt free. Trade in your credit card for a no annual fee rewards card that pays you money back every month for purchases while making sure you never pay one dime of interest because you always pay this balance in full. You will live in abundace when you stop paying interest for things you acquire that you really don't need."
5. Question: "How do I figure out my purpose?"
Answer: "Ask God."
6. Question: "How can I forgive?"
Answer: "Pray the 'Our Father' prayer like you really mean it. When you understand God has already forgiven you for everything you've done wrong and He asks you to do the same, you will find a way to forgive. Pray this prayer until you get it right and learn to forgive."
7. Question: "What do I do when my world is falling apart?"
Answer: "Pray. Your world may not stop falling apart. In fact, the falling apart stuff may be exactly what you need to have a better life. Your prayers will be answered when your world stops falling apart or you gain the wisdom to understand that your world falling apart is exactly what you need to get closer to God. He is simply removing your obstacles."
8. Question: "You don't look like someone who is 58-years-old. Why do you look so much younger than your age?"
Answer: I don't drink milk or eat processed foods. I'm not stressed because I learned how to manage my time and get things done. I'm not afraid of anything because I face my fears head-on until they're gone. I live in abundance. I'm within three years of eliminating my mortgage. I asked God to show me my purpose and He did. When I had trouble forgiving people for crossing me, God helped me learn how to forgive. When my world was falling apart, God revealed to me that it was the only way Jesus could make all things new in my life. Living in a construction zone is now a way of life for me and I'm okay with that because I really like the way Jesus builds things."
9. Question: "Are you ever afraid to call yourself a Christian?"
Answer: "My only fear is that I fail to call myself a Christian when it really matters."
10. Question: "Do you believe in God?"
Answer: "With every fiber of my being. I was once blind but now I see. There are no coincidences, only God-incidences, like the reason you're here today. Thank you for spending time with me. May you live long and prosper."
Have a great day.
Monday, May 20, 2019
God's words usually have a deeper meaning than what we hear or see the first time. One of my favorite verses in the Bible, Psalm 46:10, is a great example. The command to "be still" translated from Hebrew means "let go" or "cause to be released." God is instructing us to let go and allow him to be in charge. Amazing things happen when we get out of the way, especially when we trust God's ways.
What are you going to let go of today that will allow you to be closer to God? Don't stop at one thing. Why not let go of everything? Give your plans and your dreams to God. Watch what happens. One word of caution. I recommend you buckle your seat belt before you give this a try. Have a great day.
Sunday, May 19, 2019
Imagine your dream life. Pay attention to every detail. Forget about all the obstacles keeping you from living that dream. Think big. Hold on to that picture for five minutes while your eyes are closed. How does it feel when you visualize yourself in this picture? Is it worth pursuing with every fiber of your being?
Maximizing your life starts with seeing that picture. It's the first step. The second step is believing you can do it. The third step is promising yourself you will do everything in your power to go for it. I'm not talking about the shallow end. I'm not talking about dipping your toes into the water. I'm talking about diving in with an overwhelming desire to do whatever it takes to turn your dream life into your new reality.
My greatest joy in this world is helping others maximize their lives. It's not easy. Most people don't believe they can have a better life. Most people can't see past their obstacles. The dream needs to be big enough to turn the obstacles into stepping stones. Let's do this together. Stay with me. Today is a great day to start believing. Have a great day.
Saturday, May 18, 2019
Winds approached 78 mph Thursday night in my hometown, knocking out power lines and ripping the roof off Elite Sports, the company who designed my book cover for "The Caveman in the Mirror." Rebuilding efforts are ongoing. My community is resilient. When everything gets back to normal, I'm visiting these folks for help with artwork for my next project. I'm thankful we have power and everyone is safe. Have a great day.
Friday, May 17, 2019
The people around you who are sought out for questions are the ones who show consistency in all their actions. Consistent people make others feel safe. Consistency is my mantra. I like making my habits so permanent that I don't even have to think about my choices. This makes my life guilt-free.
If your life is a mess and you feel others ignore you for advice, try fixing all the things that are broken, one step at a time. For example, if you find yourself hitting the snooze button too many times in the morning, focus all your energy on getting out of bed the first time the alarm goes off. Do this every day for 30 days until you master the art of waking up. Duplicate this for your next out-of-control activity. The more consistency you have in your life, the more you will be taken seriously. Have a great day.
Thursday, May 16, 2019
It only takes ten to fifteen minutes of your time to make sure you and your family are on the same page. You are busy. Your spouse is busy. The last thing you need is to be spinning out of control because you aren't communicating about what's going on in your lives. In our household, time together is precious. Failing to get together weekly for our traffic meetings leads to missed opportunities. Relationships are about the details. The last thing I want to do is have dinner ready when I'm expecting my wife to be home and she's coming home late because I forgot about her hair appointment.
Remember one thing, the busier you become, the greater the need for traffic meetings. Get your entire family on the same page. How would you feel if you showed up at the airport for your dream vacation outside the United States and you left your passport behind? Traffic meetings are your passport to a rock solid marriage. You're in this together. Set aside weekly time to compare calendars and come up with a plan that allows you more time together. Have a great day.
Wednesday, May 15, 2019
Do you ever count your blessings and wonder why you're so blessed? I'm sometimes guilty of taking things for granted, like playing tennis and having a day job I love so much that it doesn't even feel like I'm working. Today I get to return to my team at my day job in Iowa and then play tennis after work. It's a match made in Heaven.
I was in Dollar General the other day and noticed this planner with a title on the front, "Be Happy." It was calling out to me so I put it in my shopping cart. Now I have a gratitude journal to record all the things I'm thankful for. This is a new part of my morning routine to help get me ready for what's ahead. It's all about being happy. When you're grateful, happiness is a by-product. Have a great day.