Stardate 05.03.2026
This story is for anyone who feels distracted, lost, overlooked, unseen, overwhelmed… or simply worn down by life.
I’m with you.
I’ve always been with you — even during the long stretches when I wasn’t fully present in my own life.
I know what it feels like when disappearing seems easier than participating. When keeping your head above water takes everything you have, and you still feel like you’re sinking.
During the season that included COVID, I tried hard to stay upbeat. I tried to muscle through it. I tried to pretend I was managing better than I was.
But underneath, I was struggling.
So I did something different.
I asked for help.
For the men who came before me, that wasn’t the pattern. Strength meant silence. Endurance meant keeping it to yourself. You handled your business privately and didn’t burden anyone else with it.
I’ve come to believe that way of thinking cost a lot of good people unnecessary pain.
Seeking help did not make me weaker.
It helped me find my way back.
I still have a long way to go. But for the first time in a long time, I feel like I’ve come full circle.
For me, full circle means returning to the kid I once was — the one who lived in a natural state of joy without having to work for it. The kid who laughed easily. The kid who didn’t carry the weight of the world on his shoulders.
Some of the kids I grew up with are no longer here.
My neighbor Mark S. was one of my closest friends. He had an oversized heart, and he knew from a young age that his life might be shorter than most. Even with that knowledge, he lived with a lightness that I didn’t fully appreciate at the time.
It’s been hard to process all the losses. Some from long ago. Some from COVID. Some from circumstances I still don’t completely understand.
Grief has a way of stacking quietly over the years until one day you realize you’ve been living in a cave without knowing how you got there.
Today, I can say something I couldn’t say for a long time:
I’m coming out of the cave.
I’m thankful for the professional help I’m receiving. I’m thankful for the friends and family who stayed close, even when I wasn’t. I’m thankful that healing doesn’t require perfection — just willingness.
Yes, the world is changing.
Yes, I’m learning how to cope with it.
Yes, I have a long road ahead.
But today, I feel like I’m standing in the sunlight again.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18
If you’re in a cave right now, please hear me: you are not weak for needing help. You are human. And there is a way back to yourself, one small step at a time.
Join me here:
https://substack.com/@michaelmulliganlivelong
Captain’s Addendum
Bones: “You know, Spock, humans have a strange habit of thinking they’re supposed to fix themselves alone.”
Spock: “Indeed, Doctor. Yet the data consistently shows they heal more effectively in the presence of others.”
I’ve learned that strength isn’t found in isolation. It’s found in the courage to let someone walk with you for a while.
Thank you for reading. Thank you for being part of my life.
May you live long and prosper.

