Two important rules of chess concern time and space. Suppose you apply those rules to your life. Pretend your time and space is limited to this day only. Live this day as if it's your last. The time clock is ticking and you are running out of space. Consider all your choices carefully.
If you are having trouble deciding what your move will be, here are three examples that work for me:
I forgive you.
I love you.
It helps if you change your attitude about the person on the other side of the board. Stop thinking about him or her as your opponent or adversary. Are you ready? Go ahead. It's your move...