Monday, February 23, 2015

Do You Suffer From Atelophobia?

I never heard of atelophobia until this morning when I searched "fear of not being good enough."  It comes from the Greek word, atelés which means "imperfect" or "incomplete" and phobós which means "fear."

I have one thing to say about this if you feel this describes you.  Shame on the people around you from your past (or your present) who criticized you so much or who constantly humiliated you every time you goofed.  These are the same people who are so full of their own hangups that they use you to cover up their own shortfalls.  If you buy their criticisms, you are forgetting who you really are – a child of God.  You cannot be separated by his love for you.  Here you go:

31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? 33 Who shall bring any charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died—more than that, who was raised—who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? 36 As it is written,
“For your sake we are being killed all the day long;
    we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”
37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord ~ Romans 8:31-39

Here's something else to consider about being imperfect or incomplete.  You're right.  You're not perfect and you are incomplete.  That's the joy of being human.  It's nothing to be afraid of.  You are the sum of all your experiences.  A baby doesn't give up learning to walk because he or she has a fall.  No.  Falling is part of the process.  Giving up isn't human.  Getting up is.  Experiencing butterflies in your stomach before a major event is normal.  Teaching those butterflies to fly in formation so that you can be your best and achieve your goals is healthy and it works.

Have a great day.  Enjoy your mistakes.  Take as many mulligans as you need to help you be your best.

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