A new topic showed up this morning when I checked in on my sleep score: sleep latency. This is the amount of time it takes to fall asleep. According to the experts behind the tool I use, the optimal range is between 5 and 30 minutes. My smartwatch recorded 16 minutes before I entered my first sleep cycle. That tells me the recent adjustments I’ve made are working—like ending my day with prayer and having quiet conversations with the voices within, assuring them that they’ll have their time to speak, after a good night’s rest.
Some of you have shared concerns about my mental wellness. I appreciate that. What I can say is this: everything that happens during the day impacts our sleep. When days are overwhelming, our nights suffer. And when sleep suffers, a pattern emerges that deserves our attention. For me, it became clear I needed to reach out for professional guidance.
One thing I’ve learned about asking for help is that it sometimes leads you into deeper, unfamiliar territory—into places that stir anxiety, especially when you begin to uncover what’s been buried in the subconscious. But healing often begins with gentle exploration.
Before relocating to the Midwest over 13 years ago, our family vacationed in the area we now call home. My father-in-law, Spike, and I would spend time exploring local cemeteries, searching for relatives on my wife’s side of the family. Just the other day, I returned to the cemetery where my in-laws now rest. I thanked them for welcoming me into their family—even when my ways may have seemed a little peculiar, especially around food. Back then, I didn’t eat red meat. I still remember Spike asking me, “Are you going to turn my daughter into one of them vegetarians?” I smiled and said, “Your daughter has her own mind—she can do whatever she wants.” I guess I passed the test.
So today, I want to take a moment to thank my family and friends for the love and support you’ve offered over the years. When it comes to sleep latency—and all the other aspects of sleep—I’m learning to live in the present. I’m doing my best not to let things get under my skin. I’m learning to let go.
Letting go isn’t easy, especially when it comes to people who matter. Losing a loved one leaves wounds that run deep. Grief takes time. So if you're struggling right now, know that you’re not alone. I’m walking this road too—one day at a time. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help if things feel heavy.
Have a beautiful day. I’m cheering for you to find peace, and to fall asleep tonight with ease.

